Wednesday, December 2, 2009

You Are Beautiful Like a Rainbow

There is a debt of gratitude I owe. To Mark, Denise, Kyle, Jeffrey, Brian and Eli, I thank you.

You were among the very first who allowed me into your lives and who opened my eyes, mind and heart. You showed me without even knowing it, what I had somehow always known; that “gay” and “lesbian,” are just labels, not definitions.

In your homes, I have seen your family pictures hanging from the walls and they remind me of the pictures strewn around my home. “We are all brothers and sisters,” those pictures whisper.

You have shown me wit, intelligence, humor, compassion, friendship and generosity beyond measure. Together, we have laughed, cried and behaved sillier than adults probably should. You have literally doctored my family and I with compassion and diligence and you have visited me in the hospital when I was scared and in need of a comforting hand. You have defended me when I was incapable of defending myself and I am forever grateful.

We have remodeled bathrooms together, danced together, cooked for each other and shared the most intimate contents of our hearts. You have taught me more than you will ever know.

What you have taught me in part, is that being “gay” or “lesbian” is no different from being “French” or “American.” Those labels give one only a minute bit of insight into who a person actually is. They absolutely do not define you. What you have taught me, is that by keeping my heart and my mind open, the world suddenly becomes a much larger place filled with possibilities for creating friends and adding to my family.

Because of you, I now have so many other beautiful men and women in my life who make me smile and touch my heart. Without these dear and darling humans, my life would be such a drab and boring place to live. They have welcomed me into their homes and hearts with open arms and I just cannot thank them enough. I hope we have many, many more wonderful times together.

Your true colors shine through and I wish the world could see your light for what it is. My heart breaks for the injustices that stifle you and which attempt to deny you the pursuit of happiness. Please know that I stand with you, hand in hand, in your quest for equality.

To Kyle and Jeffery: I love you as though you’re brothers from another mother. I take pride in your successes and anguish over your losses and stumbles. I will always be here to hold your hands and go through it all with you, if you will allow me that privilege.

To Eli: There are things about you I will never forget. I ache that you are ill and that your time on the planet has been far too short. I hold in my heart funny and beautiful memories of a funny and beautiful man.

To Brian: Your generosity and warmth is amazing. You are kind and loving and thoughtful beyond reason. I’m so glad to call you “friend” and so happy that you are a good and loving partner to my Jeffrey.

To Mark and Denise: You two define “family” in such a beautiful way. Even through the exasperation and frustration I know has been felt at times you always know at the end of the day that you love each other without question. You have pulled together in extraordinary ways to care for your parents with love, humor and compassion. You are both wonderful and talented human beings whom I admire greatly.

So lovely people...thank you, thank you, from the bottom of my heart. You have added color, joy, love and humor to my life and have taught me invaluable lessons. I love you all.


The Bug said...

Oh NICE post! Thanks for the rainbow...

steven said...

a beautiful and loving post amy. thanks for this. for all my friends and colleagues who aren't here to read this!! steven

Amy said...

Steven: Thank you. It truly comes from the bottom of my heart.

Amy said...

Bug: For some reason, my comments showed up out of order! I haven't been on in so long, maybe I've forgotten how all of this works! Thanks for the sweet comment and you're quite welcome for the rainbow. Aren't they beautiful?

ellen abbott said...

The human race is so diverse and in ways that we do not understand but we are all people. Why is this so hard to understand? You are a good friend. Glad to see you here.

Glynis said...

Lovely post, written from the heart.

@eloh said...

Beautiful post.

It also gave me a spark of an idea.

I think I'll dig out my daughters Rainbow Bright collection and mail them to her for Christmas. She always tells me she was way ahead of her peers...collecting rainbows from the time she was a tot.

Sadly I see New York has now voted against the marriage rights. This is all so much insanity. Why do we need to vote for a "right"?

Amy said...

ellen: You are so correct. I just wish that humanity could learn to embrace our diversity instead of being fearful of it.

Glynis: It was, Glynis...and thank you.

eloh: Rainbo Brites! My gosh...haven't heard that in years! Very progressive, your daughter! And does that little ol' passage go? "We hold these truths to be self evident, that ALL men are created equal, that they are endowed by their creator with certain inalienable rights, that among these are life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness." If one doesn't even have the right to marry the person one loves...doesn't that immediately put an end to that particular pursuit of happiness?

Maithri said...

How I've missed you!

Are you on facebook? Yes I've recently succumbed to the dark side and joined.... ;) Send me an email sometime and let me i can 'add you'. ;)

Your love lights the world my friend,


Amy said...

Maithri: Ha! Your comment made me laugh. That's how I felt about joining Facebook but have found a great deal of joy in reconnecting with old friends. I'll send you my info for sure, but am a little hesitant. I'm afraid you'll find out how incredibly silly and shallow I actually am! Thanks so much for your comment. I always appreciate the love you send my way.

lakeviewer said...

Good to see you back. I see from your side bar that you haven't been idle either. Love this post, honest and heartfelt.

Amy said...

Lakeviewer: Good to be back! Thanks for the lovely compliment.

Inga K said...

How wonderful it must be for you to have such friends in your life. We can all use a little more love in our lives, regardless of how it's labeled. Thank you for sharing.